Tuesday, September 15, 2015

ළමා ලිංගික අපහරණය


 පොඩි මල් කැකුලු තැලිලා පොඩි වෙනවා.දවස් දෙක තුනක් උන්ගේ මූනු පොඩිති මූනුපොතේ එහාට මෙහාට ශෙයා වෙනවා.එච්චරද?
පොඩි වෙච්ච මල් කැකුලු ගැන කතා කරන වෙලාවේ තව මල් කැකුලකට ඒ ඉරනම අත් නොවෙන්න වග බලා ගත්තොත් මොකද?

  • ළමා අපචාර වලට හේතු එකකට වඩා වැඩියි තමයි. ඒත් සමාජයේ හුඟ දෙනෙක් ගේ නොදැනුවත්කම එහෙමත් නැත්නම් වැරදි දැනුවත්කම් ලොකුම හේතුවන් නෙවෙයිද?
  • ළමා ලිංගික අපහරණය ගැන ගැඹුරට කතා බහ නොවෙන්නෙ ඇයි?
  • හුඟක් වෙලාවල වෙනවා වගේ මේ ගැන තියෙන මිත්යා මත අපි දුරු කරගන්නෙ කවදද?
  • ලමා ලිංගික අපයෝජකයෙක් කියන්නෙ බොහෝ විට( හැම විටම නෙවෙයි ) ඔහුට හෝ ඇයට සමීප කෙනෙක් විය හැකිද?
  • ළමා ලිංගික අපයෝජකයෙක්  කල්තියා හඳුනා ගත හැකිද?
  • අපයෝජකයා පිරිමියෙක්ම විය යුතුද?
  • අපයෝජනයට ලක්වන්නේ ගැහැනු ළමුන් පමනක්ද?
  • අපයෝජනයක් සිදුවී ඇති බව දැනගත් විට? 
..........................................හැබෑට මොකද කරන්න පුලුවුන්?

Saturday, August 22, 2015

දැන්වත් අපි මේ ගැන පොඩ්ඩක් හිතල බලන එක හොඳයි නේද?

ළමා ලිංගික අපචාර කියලා කියන්නේ කතා බහට ලක් වෙන්නම ඕනේ මාතෘකාවක්.ඔබට දරුවන් හිටියත් නොහිටියත් කාගෙහරි දරු පැටියෙක් වෙනුවෙන් අපි ඒ ගැන දැනුවත් වෙන්නම ඕනේ.මොකද ලංකාවේ වගේ ම ලෝකය දිහා බැලුවත් මේ එන්න එන්නම වැඩි වෙන රැල්ලක් මිසක් අඩු වෙන එක් නෙවෙයි.
ඇත්තටම  ළමා ලිංගික අපචාර ගැන අපි කොච්චර දැනුවත්ද?  අවුරුද්දකට කලිනුයි මම මේ ගැන ලියන්න ගත්තේ. ඒත් බට්ටි ඉපදුනාට පස්සේ ඒ යුද්ධ අස්සේ මේක එහෙමමම මග ඇරුනා.
දැනටමත් පරක්කු වැඩිද මන්දා.අලුතින් ලියන්න වෙලාව නොතිබ්බත් ලියපු ටික සිංහලෙන් හරි කොටනව කියල හිතා ගත්තා.

  • ඇත්තටම ලමා ලිංගික අපචාර ගැන අපි දැනුවත්ද?
  • පහු ගිය සතිය හෝ මාසය ඇතුලත ලංකාවේ මේ වගේ අවාසනාවන්ත සිද්ධි කීයක් වෙන්නට ඇතැයි හිතුනද?
  •  එතකොටලෝකේ තත්වේ කොහොමද?
  •  අපිට එයින් එකක් හරි වළක්වන්න පුලුවන්කම තිබ්බද?
  • ඒ දරු පැටවු ඒ වගේ අවාසනාවන්ත ඉරනමකට ලක් වුනේ කාගේ වරදින්ද?
  • වැරද්දක් වුනාම කාට හරි ඇඟිල්ල දික් කරන එකනේ ලේසිම වැඩේ.ඒත් ඒ දරුවට ඒකෙන් සෙතක් වෙනවද?


දැන්වත් අපි මේ ගැන පොඩ්ඩක් හිතල බලන එක හොඳයි නේද?

Sunday, October 5, 2014


Thrown in to Hell


Remember your school days, the good old days when you had absolutely no worries and were free like free can be?
What would have been your fate if you had to sacrifice that life to enter a marriage at that tender age? 
Where would you be now if you were burdened with responsibilities of an adult married life when you were only a kid?





                           That is what happened to Nujood Ali,a simple child from Yemen. She was only nine years old when she was married to Faez Ali Thameer who was in his thirties. She only managed to escape the brutal fate of being raped by her husband and physically abused by the family members after two months. But not every child is that lucky.


Child marriage is a formal marriage or informal union entered into by an individual before reaching the age of 18
According to the Universal Declaration of Human Rights (1948) a person should be able to give"free and full” consent before getting married and he or she must be mature enough to make an informed decision. 
How can a small child make such a decision?

  • According to UNICEF every year an estimated 14 million girls worldwide get married before the age of 18 years.
  • Furthermore in the developing world one in every seven girls get married before their 15th birth day.
  • In fact it is said that every three seconds a girl is getting married before her eighteenth birthday,that is 25000 girls per day.
  • Child marriage is most common in South Asia,Latin America,Caribbeans, Middle east and Africa.
  • Nearly half of all Indian girls become child brides.
  • In Sri Lanka the percentage of girls getting married before 18 years is estimated to be 12%.


Trapped in a marriage for which no on asked what their choice was, the child brides face a lot of unwanted consequences.
They become pregnant at their teen age, not at all prepared either physically or mentally to go though a pregnancy.
Teen pregnancy is in fact the main cause of death in below nineteen years in the developing world.
As their body is not developed enough they are more to complications at birth.Even the children born as a result of a teen pregnancy are more prone to early death and various health problems.

Forced in to a marriage usually to a man , much older than her, the  child bride does not get a chance to continue her education and often becomes socially isolated and economically dependant on the husband and the family.Not only she gets sexually abused by the husband, she is also more prone to become a victim of domestic violence.


Although many communities are starting to moving away from the concept of child marriage, it is still prevalent in developing countries due to reasons like poverty, religious and social pressure.

But none of these reasons ever justifies snatching the soul of a playful innocent little child and pushing her straight in to hell.

" Child marriage is a practice that robs millions of girls of their childhood, their rights and their dignity"
   -Archbishop Desmond Tutu

http://www.unicef.org/policyanalysis/files/Note_on_Child_Marriage.pdf
http://www.icrw.org/child-marriage-facts-and-figures
http://www.girlsnotbrides.org/about-child-marriage/

Saturday, September 27, 2014

We need All of you.Come let us guard our kids

Some people believe that to call it child sexual abuse it has to be actual physical sexual act involving a child.

This is not so.
 According to Medline plus, it includes a wide range of acts between a child and an adult or an older child which may comprise of physical contact on most of the occasions, but not always.
It may include
  •  Asking or pressuring a child to engage in sexual activities
  •  Indecent exposure (of the genitals, female nipples, etc.) to a child with intent to gratifying the sexual desires of the offender or to intimidate or groom the child
  •   Actual physical sexual contact with a child
  •  Using a child to produce child pornography

The National Society for Prevention of Cruelty to children, describes child sexual abuse as

  • Sexual touching of any part of the body, clothed or unclothed, including using an object
  • All penetrative sex, including penetration of the mouth with an object or part of the body
  • Encouraging a child to engage in sexual activity, including

  • Sexual acts with someone else
  • making a child strip or masturbate

  • Intentionally engaging in sexual activity in front of a child
  • Not taking proper measures to prevent a child being exposed to sexual activity by others
  • Meeting a child following sexual 'grooming', or preparation, with the intention of abusing them
  • Taking, making, permitting to take, distributing, showing or advertising indecent images of children
  • Paying for the sexual services of a child or encouraging them into prostitution or pornography
  • Showing a child images of sexual activity including photographs, videos or via webcams.

Child marriage is another most horrific form of child sexual abuse. In fact UNICEF states that child marriage “represents perhaps the most prevalent form of sexual abuse and exploitation of girls".


A child is not mature either physically or psychologically to deal with any such sexual performance. Thus exposed to such abuse can damage a child’s health.
Most people tend to believe an unwanted pregnancy to be the only adverse outcome of child sexual abuse. Indeed an unwanted pregnancy in a mere child who may not even be able to take care of her let alone another life would definitely be a tragic outcome. It is said that more than 60% of teen pregnancies are preceded by child molestation.

Yet it is only the tip of the iceberg
.
Child molestation can damage a child physically by
  • Infection with Sexually transmitted Diseases
  • Lacerations in genital regions/rectum, internal bleeding and may be even death due to massive bleeding.
  • Eating disorders
  • Sexual disorders



  • It can damage the psychological health of the child and may cause Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Sleep Disturbances, poor self-esteem, depression, personality disorders etc.
  • It has been noted that victims of child molestation are more prone to self-harm, alcohol and drug abuse risky sexual behavior in adolescent and adult life. Some studies have shown in fact that being molested in turn increases the risk of the child becoming a child molester himself in later life.
  • The cheerful life of the innocent kids is turned in to a night mare by child abuse. They become shy and withdrawn, loose their self-confidence and sometimes may even become aggressive. Their school performance will deteriorate as well as their social relationships.

Confused and often frightened signs of child sexual abuse may not be signposted on a victim. Yet careful vigilance will always detect some change in a previously normal child.
  • Physical signs may not be common although redness, rashes/swelling in the genital area, urinary tract infections, or other such symptoms may be a possible outcome and therefore should be carefully investigated.
  •  Also, anxiety and depression may appear as physical symptoms like such as chronic stomach pain or headaches. They can also show regressive behavior. i.e: habits that stopped in childhood like bedwetting of thumb sucking will suddenly re appear
  • More common are the emotional or behavioral signals. These can run from "too perfect" behavior, to depression and shyness, to unexplained anger and rebellion.
  • Sexual behavior, interest and language that are not age-appropriate can be a red flag.

A single episode of sexual abuse is quite enough to scar a child for life. Yet sadly child molestation often is unnoticed and therefore repeated sexual exploitation of victims is a usual trend.


PREVENTION IS THE BEST STRATEGY IN TACKLING CHILD MOLESTATION.
 It involves prevention of repeated sexual molestation as well.



Staying alert to save every child possible should be the responsibility of us all. Shouldn’t it be?